31 July 2025
When your child keeps complaining about a stomachache before school or suddenly experiences shortness of breath but no medical cause can be found, it’s easy to get confused—or even frustrated. Is it real? Is it all in their head? As a parent, caregiver, or even a concerned teacher, you might wonder whether something more is going on beneath the surface. That “something” might just be a psychosomatic disorder.
In this article, we'll dive deep into how to identify psychosomatic disorders in children and adolescents, what causes them, how they manifest, and most importantly, how to support kids through them. If you've ever found yourself at the intersection of emotional distress and physical symptoms in a child, this guide is for you.
"Psychosomatic" comes from "psyche" (mind) and "soma" (body). So, psychosomatic disorders involve real physical symptoms that are either caused or worsened by mental or emotional factors.
Now, here’s the kicker: the symptoms are real. The child isn’t just pretending. The tummy ache, the headache, the pain—they genuinely feel it. But unlike a cold or a sprained ankle, the root isn't in the body. It's in the mind.
Think of the brain and body like roommates. When one is stressed out, it tends to affect the other. In psychosomatic disorders, emotional struggles—like anxiety, depression, or unresolved trauma—show up as physical ailments.
Here are some common emotional triggers:
- Family conflict or divorce
- Bullying or peer pressure
- Academic pressure
- Moving to a new place or school
- Grief or loss
- Abuse or trauma
And let’s not forget the hormonal rollercoaster of adolescence. Combine that with a stressful environment, and you have a recipe for psychosomatic symptoms.
Look out for:
The bottom line? If the physical symptom keeps showing up but medical tests keep coming back normal, it’s time to consider the emotional angle.
Think of it like this—when an adult gets extremely stressed, they might get a migraine, clench their jaw, or feel their stomach churn. Kids feel the same way but often don’t realize the cause. Since they can’t always say, “I'm overwhelmed,” their body speaks for them.
Also, never underestimate how real these symptoms feel to the child. Just because the cause is psychological doesn’t mean the pain isn’t real.
Here’s how the diagnostic process might work:
1. Medical Evaluation First: To exclude physical conditions like infections, chronic illnesses, or allergies.
2. Pattern Recognition: Doctors begin to notice patterns—like symptoms only appear before school or during family arguments.
3. Mental Health Referral: A psychologist or psychiatrist gets involved to assess emotional stressors.
4. Psychosomatic Diagnosis: When emotional causes are clearly linked to physical complaints and no medical issue is found.
It’s a team effort. Pediatricians, psychologists, teachers, and parents all play a role in identifying the underlying causes.
Here are some tips:
- Be gentle and non-judgmental. Avoid saying things like “It’s all in your head.”
- Validate their feelings. Acknowledge that the pain is real—even if the cause is emotional.
- Use relatable analogies. Try something like, “Just like when your phone overheats and stops working, sometimes our minds get stressed and our bodies don’t function right.”
- Invite them to talk. Ask open-ended questions like “What do you think makes your stomach hurt the most?” or “Does anything at school make you nervous?”
Remember, the goal is to make your child feel heard and supported, not doubted or dismissed.
Here’s what treatment can look like:
- Talk of self-harm or suicidal thoughts
- Sudden extreme behavioral changes
- Severe anxiety attacks
- Refusing to eat or unexplained weight loss
When in doubt, consult a medical or mental health professional.
If your child is struggling, remind yourself that you’re not alone. Many families face this challenge, and help is available. Your love, attention, and action can make all the difference.
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Psychosomatic DisordersAuthor:
Matilda Whitley
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1 comments
Adrian McCoy
This article shines a light on an important topic! Remember, understanding psychosomatic disorders in our kids is a journey. With compassion and support, we can help them navigate their feelings and thrive. Keep up the great work!
August 11, 2025 at 4:32 AM
Matilda Whitley
Thank you for your thoughtful comment! I completely agree—compassion and support are crucial in helping our children navigate these challenges.